Are you pressing mainly down on the board as you are jointing (incorrect), or towards the back fence (correct)? That is how I fixed my problems with the jointer. It should be set closer to 1/32 of an inch difference.
my thoughts as well. sounds more like technique than machine setup. just to recap:
outfeed should be 0.002-0.005"
lower than the blades at top dead center (TDC). All blades (3) should be the same height and parallel (use a dial indicator w/ a magnetic base. Fairly cheap at Harbor Freight). John White has a great book on machine setup called Care and Repair of Shop Machines. Definitely a good resource for setups.
The nonsense about your jointer beds being too short is not true IME. I'm assuming this is a 4 ft jointer (~2 ft outfeed). Theoretically there are some arguments that it won't work well -I've heard them, but in practice, you can joint 8ft boards provided you can support them. Not sure why the 2ft jointer plane would have any less limitation given the reference bed is significantly shorter.
for final passes, take off <1/32" -try to sneak up on flat rather than get it in one giant pass. 1/8" is way too much. Same is true for thickness planers.
Reference the board against the fence and outfeed table meaning that's where pressure is applied. DO NOT press down on the board as it passes over the cutter head. You're not trying to bend the board into flatness, you're removing the excess wood. I'm guessing this is your issue.
A slight gap in the middle is fine, if not preferred -called a spring joint. 1/16" is probably too much though. I'm thinking 1/64" i.e. a slight gap that can
easily be closed with
minimal clamp force.
For edge jointing, biscuits aren't needed and don't offer any additional strength. Honestly, they're more work and a pain if you get much glue on them. They can swell quite a bit and cause "humps" in the board til they dry out.
don't forget to align the grain in your glue-up going the same direction. Makes the final planing of the panel much easier.